The assistant coach of a school bowling staff gave a jaw-dropping account of why he had an affair with one of many staff’s student-athletes that led to his resignation.
Steve Lemke, 38, selected to resign from his place at Stephen F. Austin State College in Texas slightly than be fired over the incident, based on a report in Nacogdoches’ Every day Sentinel newspaper Tuesday. He additionally described how his spouse—who’s the bowling staff’s head coach—uncovered his extramarital actions.
“I knew it was form of a no-no however there’s not a rule saying it may possibly’t occur,” Steve Lemke mentioned of the affair. “There’s not a regulation saying I’m going to go to jail for doing one thing like this. There’s nothing in stone. I assume it’s simply an ethics code, like we frown upon it, however there’s no rule, there’s no regulation damaged.”
The native newspaper didn’t reveal the identification of the athlete with whom he had the affair, saying solely that she was a member of the bowling staff that Steve Lemke and his spouse, Amber Lemke, coached. Steve speculated that the scandal might have been “amplified to the magnitude that it’s now due to the nationwide championship caliber that we’ve developed.” The bowling staff was NCAA champion in 2016 and 2019, and was runner-up in 2022.
“I feel it’s extra of an ethics factor in terms of the school so far as a coach/trainer being with a student-athlete,” he added. Each he and the bowler in query are consenting adults, the Every day Sentinel reported, that means that their relationship wouldn’t have been unlawful based on state regulation.
SFA’s director of athletics, Ryan Ivey, mentioned the affair had breached the varsity’s guidelines regarding relationships, nevertheless. “He’s not working right here anymore,” Ivey informed the paper. “From a departmental standpoint, he had a selection and he selected to resign.”
Steve mentioned his affair with the coed was uncovered after Amber noticed a textual content from her on Steve’s cellphone. “It didn’t have something intimately,” Steve mentioned of the message. “It was nearly how wonderful I’m, principally, generally perspective. Amber noticed that and questioned me and I bought to the purpose the place it simply constructed up a lot that I principally informed her the reality after she dug by means of my cellphone.”
He additionally grumbled about balancing his involvement with the staff and his house life. Amber was employed as the varsity’s bowling head coach within the 2011-12 educational 12 months and Steve served as volunteer assistant till he was formally employed as an assistant coach in 2019.
“I used to be the stay-at-home dad for 5 years with the children whereas Amber bought to go off and coach the staff and when she’d get again, I’d run practices on prime of caring for the children whereas she was again,” Steve mentioned. “After they’d journey once more, I might sit again and maintain the children.”
“Then once I bought employed on, she nearly pressured me to run practices,” he added. “I used to be a volunteer the whole time earlier than that attempting to assist out Amber. As soon as I bought employed on, one factor stemmed from one other. I felt like I used to be doing an excessive amount of for what I used to be being valued at.”
Amber Lemke is ready to remain on because the bowling staff’s head coach, however the pupil who had an affair along with her husband received’t return. Steve and Amber have reportedly filed for divorce.